Chesed
I was out of town a couple weeks ago for Shabbos staying at a friends friend. They were so nice, making me feel at home. It was a rough weekend, so there hospitality meant a lot to me.
This got me thinking about myself now, and the home I want to have. I am a little upset when having company over, especially if I have to lose my room, or share a room. Having company is a sacrifice, but the weekend made me see how much it can mean to your guest. I would be more open to having guests when I am married I"YH. There is also much you can learn from everyone, and having guests for a meal or Shabbos, is a great way to meet people, and strengthen existing friendships.
It is not only big things like having people over, that can make a difference. Small things like offering someone a ride, or help with a package. When I know what someone needs, I am happy to do it. However, I do not naturally anticipate what other peoples need are. I need to be more concious of people so I can be a better person. Helping someone when they do not ask, shows a much deeper level of caring.
I hear that girls expect you to anticipate their needs. In order to be a better person, emulating Hashem's ways, and to not be suprised with my wife bursting inot tears because I do not love her, I should work on this middah.
posted by Momo @ 7:50 PM
2 Comments:
It is hard to anticipate people's needs. It takes A LOT of time to have it programmed in, where asking someone if they needed help was the natural flow of things. One thing I struggle with similar to this is introducing people. I happen to have a wide group of friends and acquaintances. If I'm with one person, I ALWAYS forget to introduce one to the other. It's terrible, especially that I know it often makes others uncomfortable.
Try to look at other people's situations as if you were in their shoes. It will take time, but you'll get there. Good luck!
Thanks, I write about any progress in this area.
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